Who is MummaLish?

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Firstly, I would like to welcome you to my blog. Thanks for stopping by! This is my first attempt at blogging so please bear with me while I get the hang of it. I will probably post every day over the next few days to get a ‘background’ for you all to get to know me and my blog.

Some of the things I will post about about may include (but is not limited to):

  • Being a Mum – I have a gorgeous son named Ryder who is 15 months old. He lights up my life in a way I had never imagined possible.
  • Breastfeeding – This refers back to being a mum but holds a special point in my life.
  • Housekeeping – I am trying to de-clutter and re-organise my house and life.
  • Cooking – I am always looking to try new recipes, food victories and flops may appear here.
  • Just Me – Random ramblings fall under this category

Still here? Thought I’d lost you there for a moment. Hello there! My name is Alicia and I am (currently) 19 years old. I am a strong supporter of breastfeeding and I am currently training to become a Community Educator with the Australian Breastfeeding Association. My focus is to raise awareness of breastfeeding being NORMAL in the community, and in particular, ‘young’ mums. I am a stay at home mum and live with my wonderful partner James and our beautiful son Ryder.

I have many hobbies, including reading, cross-stitch, jigsaw puzzles and now, blogging. I have been told that my mind is 10 years older than the rest of me, but I’m still a kid at heart. I like 80s music, bright colours and dinosaurs. I love to learn. My typical Friday & Saturday night consists of snuggling up in bed with a book and my son. When I grow up, I want to be me.

Confessions

1. I fell pregnant at 18
2. I had my baby at 19
3. I am constantly judged for being a ‘young mum’
4. I would love to have another baby
5. I cant fall pregnant without having minor surgery first
6. I was an alcoholic at 17
7. I have experimented with drugs
8. I worry that I am not the best mother I could be
9. I want to be an accountant as a career
10. I hate that my mother and younger brother live 400kms away
11. I hate that my maternal grandmother lives 3000kms away
12. I wish my family were more accepting of my partner
13. I don’t like my first name
14. My partner and I never agreed on a name for our baby
15. I have lost over 20kgs in the past year
16. I want to lose four more kilos before my birthday
17. I spend too much time online
18. I am ‘still’ breastfeeding my 16 month old
19. I am trying to get my family to eat healthier
20. I will be 21 this year!

One for each year I’ve been alive. Your turn

A Day at the Lake

Good Friday? More like great Friday!

What an adventure. The drive was too long with a toddler in the back seat. I lost count of how many times I asked “how much longer, are we there yet?”.

The old lake was a very sad state of affairs, it has dried up considerably since I last saw it 7 years ago, metres of black silty sludge ringing the lake, the bouys marking the swimming area beached on dry land.

Change of plans.

A kilometer back down the road is another turn off, leading to another lake. One I’d never been to before. After about 30kms of corrugated gravel we arrive. And I must say, wow. This lake is saltwater, so the sand around the outside is like beach sand, just a lot more compact. There is a proper boat ramp to launch from, toilets not far away and lots of space to move.

Ryder has only been to the beach once in his short life, but absolutely loves sand. The second he was out of the car he was sitting down digging and playing with the sand. After a quick hello to our friend with the boat, I grabbed Ryder’s ball out of the car. Well. Didn’t he think that was great. He grabbed his ball and ran. Fast. I chased after him and he threw the ball ahead. I took off and soccer kicked the ball back towards ‘camp’. Ryder squealed with laughter and was off again. Game on. I am astounded by his coordination, for a nearly 16 month old he plays some good soccer!
The adults unpacked and put the boat in the water while Ryder and I tore up the beach.

Everyone else started to arrive and all of a sudden there were kids everywhere. Our soccer match ended so I could introduce Ryder to the adults, turns out one lady knew my parents when I was a toddler! The kids hijacked the ball for their own game of soccer, much to Ryder’s annoyance. He would take off with his arms outstretched saying ‘ball! Ball!’ But the kids would simply move further away. Not impressed.

Once the boat was in the water I left Ryder building sand castles with James while my Dad and I went for a spin on the tubes. It felt like only 7 days had passed, not 7 years. I think I laughed the whole way around the lake. I then sat in the boat as spotter so Dad could have a ski, followed by the two tweenage girls having a go in the tubes. Lunch time was soon upon us and I quickly reverted back to ‘Mum Mode’, making sure Ryder had sunscreen on and was fed and watered. More digging persued. I tried to take the little man for a paddle but the kids soon came splashing over with Ryder’s ball. Of course he tried running after them again, falling over as they disappeared further away. He didn’t want to paddle after that.
Back to playing in the sand while I got to chat to the mums of the group. Apparently motherhood suits me.

Ryder eventually had a nap at about 3pm, after me pacing up and down the ‘beach’, far enough away so he couldn’t see or hear the kids with his ball. Once he was settled in his tent for a snooze it was my turn to have a shot at kneeboarding. I was very apprehensive after not doing it for so many years but I needn’t have worried. The boat took off and so did I, skimming across the water as I held on for dear life. Once I had found the right balance to keep the board from bouncing so much, I was set. Carving across the wake, out onto the undisturbed water of the lake. Back over the wake and down the other side to mirror my actions. I dont know why but it is much easier for me to drop off the left hand side of the wake than the right. Weird. The boat continued towing me around the lake and I was on cloud nine. I could not stop smiling and Im pretty sure I held my breath for way too long. We were nearly back to shore when I hit a chunky patch of water from another boat, making me wipeout. I hooked the ski rope’s handle to the front of the board and laid down while I was towed the short distance back to shore.

I walked out of the water with the board under my arm, a triumphant smile on my face. I was shaking and struggling to catch my breath, the adrenaline pumping through my body making me feel giddy. There was no time to savour the moment though, it was time to get dry and dressed for the drive home. I was still shaking when Dad came in from his final lap on the skis. Serious face Alicia, its time to go.

I dried myself as best I could and put my dry clothes on. They were full of sand but I didn’t care. James had packed the car while I was out on the water so all that was left was Ryder and the tent. We said our farewells and clambered back into the Liberty when I realised something was missing. Ryder’s ball. The ball that was the centre of attention all day, so much fun as to steal from a toddler, had blown 500 meters away and was bobbing in the water against the boat ramp. Two of the youngest kids ran off to collect it, James followed them in the car to give them a ride back.

Another round of farewells, thank-you-so-muchs and promises to return next season. Then we were back in the car and heading home. We inadvertently took a wrong turn somewhere and ended up shaving a good 50kms from our trip. Score. Ryder, my Dad and I myself all fell asleep, only waking when we were stopped by a booze bus 5 minutes from home. Dad went home and Ryder and I were straight in the shower. A quick dinner of leftovers and we were in bed by 8pm. Well and truly spent after a totally awesome day.

That ball, in case you were wondering, cost $3 from Kmart. Bring your own next time!

HAPPY BLOGAVERSARY TO ME!

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After I posted yesterday, I looked at my archives and realized that a year ago I started my little ole' stitchy blog.  I checked to see when my very first post was and it was yesterday!  One year ago I started this blog and I have enjoyed every minute of it.  So to celebrate, on short notice, I have 3 little give-aways. 

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In case you dont already know, I love to cross stitch! Here is a give away from a stitchy blog celebrating her 1 year blogaversary! Get in quick though, the giveaway ends March 31. Tell 'em MummaLish sent ya!

Excellent Easter Coming Right Up!

In just a few moments it will be midnight, heralding the start of Good Friday 2013.

In 8 hours time myself,  my darling son, partner and father (just to clear things up, they are three separate people. Weirdo.), will be bundled into the car for a day trip. We are headed to “the lake” for what will hopefully be a fun filled day of water skiing, tubing and knee boarding. It has been about 5 years since I was last at the lake and boy have things changed. Back then it would be my two brothers and I, camping in a tent, showering in a plastic tub with water that was heated by the sun. We could be out there for a week, swimming and doing above mentioned water sports, playing seaweed monsters and playing “spotlight” when it got dark. I had a girl my age to play with, we’d often brush each others hair and write notes to each other in a notebook. Oh the innocence of youth.

Tomorrow will be a carefully executed outing with a toddler. Neither of my brothers will be there, one lives 400kms away and the other isn’t due to be released from prison until May. The girl from before will most likely be there, though our lives have taken two very different turns. She has a job and parties on weekends. I have a toddler.

I wouldn’t trade my life for anything, it can just be very isolating amongst those that are child-free. I am not the best in any social situation, I often come off as awkward and anti-social. I can see it now – “oh hey I haven’t seen you in like 5 years, what have you been up to?” “Um, well, I had a kid! …..And that’s about it.” Then we’ll kind of stand there awkwardly for a few moments, until I am called away to attend to said kid.

I was hoping to be asleep by now but I have been busy. Busy packing a lunchbox for Ryder, consisting of a banana, two peanut butter foldovers (a sandwich made with one piece of bread folded in half) and two of the new Scooby Doo ‘fruit tails’ we found at the shops earlier this evening. They claim to be 65% real fruit juice but seem to have the consistency of a lolly snake. Let’s see of Ryder notices the difference. He loves The Natural Confectionary Company’s brand of lolly snakes, thanks to weekly visits to the prison, so lets see if these ‘tails’ will hold his attention.

After packing Ryder’s lunchbox I packed myself a set of bathers. The board shorts were bought last summer when I was 20kgs heavier and the bikini 2 and a half years ago before I fell pregnant. I am going to look amazing, I know. At least I shaved my legs right? Yes, only after turning the light off and getting comfortable in bed. I se the alarm for 7am, then another for 6.30 to be sure I’d actually get up at 7. I stretched out my legs and then thought ‘S@#t’. My legs are beyond prickly, they are almost to the point of being furry. Not a good look at the old lake reunion. So there I am at 11.30pm, shaving my legs in the bathroom sink. Of course lifting my leg high enough to rest my foot on the edge of the sink caused something in my hip/thigh area to go twang. The things I do to attempt to be socially acceptable. Dont tell anyone but I only did from the knee down, that’s all they’ll see anyway under my men’s XL boardies.

I think I’m ready.

It is now 12.28am. Hello Friday, I hope you are Good.

Not Another C.O.D Blog!

No, I am not referring to the popular video game, Call of Duty. I am referring to Cleaning, Organising and Decluttering. I have decided that there are enough blogs and websites on these topics already out there on the interweb, so I will not add to them. I will not post hints and tips that can be found on dozens of other sites.

This blog was not intended for that. It was intended to document my journey from frazzled to FLYing. I do not need to offer reconstituted advice in order to do that. I will fight the temptation. What I will do however is post how these oodles of sites have and will help me to better my life and house. I am going to give this thing another crack. I have decided to step away from The FlyLady way and forge my own path. Don’t get me wrong, alot of her writings will proivde the foundations of my new lifestyle (and workstyle) but I am going to make it suit me and my home and family. Yes, I will establish routines and declutter my home. No, I will not obsess about keeping my sink shining or wear shoes everyday. I am going to “go with the flow” and take each day as it comes.

A good example of this happened last week. I spent the best part of the day cuddling my beautiful son on the couch. In my pyjamas. I also completed two loads of laundry and washed a whole heap of dishes. In my pyjamas. Bare-foot. And you know what? I loved it. Sure, I do not want every day to be like that day but it was a nice change.

From April 1st I will be re-doing The Organised Housewife’s 20 Days to a Clean Home Challenge. I will be posting each day’s tasks in my facebook group Housework Honeys. I am still wanting to help others that are just as overwhelmed by their homes as I am and was, I am just going to do it a little differently. Why reinvent the wheel? I will never claim anyone else’s work as my own, I believe in giving credit where credit is due.

I am not making any promises of keeping this blog updated on a daily, or even a weekly basis. I will write when and if I want to write, instead of empty promises and hollow content. If you will stay the course with me, I will be glad of your company. It can be a pretty lonely world, this SAHM business. So let’s move on from the past and get ready for some not-so-smooth sailing ahead on the seas of life!

P.S – Do you think I should use my MummaLish facebook page more often? e.g posting blog updates etc? Thanks for your feedback

Housework, Honey!

If you are on Facebook and would like some motivation, support and helpful information to get your housework under control, check out the Housework Honeys group.

I made it a few days ago and we are already 20+ members strong. Things have been slow going though, apart from giving some advice to one person, I feel like I am just talking to myself in there. I would love some company!

If you think you could benefit from this group, or have ideas or motivation to contribute, please search for the Housework Honeys group on Facebook!

*edit – Here is a direct link for those interested https://facebook.com/groups/347550562012890?refid=27   I hope to see you there!

10 Ways to Run A Blog (Into the Ground)

1. Disappear off the face of the blogging planet for months on end, without any warning or explanation. Really, its just rude.

2. Write a sponsored post in the middle of your blogging absence, again with no explanation. You’ve got time to blog for money, but not for your readers? You sell-out.

3. Post repetitive post after repetitive post, as a “series” that nobody really cares about. Posting for the sake of posting will not keep followers reading. Be original.

4. Whinge about personal issues that are irrelevant to the blog. What’s your Dad being in prison got to do with organising your home?

5. Ignore your followers when they show concern for your prolonged absence. How rude. Snob.

6. Ignore your blog and hope it will a. Run itself. b. Disappear. Neither of these things will happen without some sort of input. Sorry, the magic blogging fairies have gone on strike.

7. Over-promise and under-deliver. Biting off more than you can chew is not pretty. Ever.

8. Start a new blog on a completely unrelated matter in order to “replace” your original blog. That first blog is still waiting for you to play with it again, poor blog.

9. Expect your site views to magically continue rising after not posting for months. Because all of your readers are going to re-read all your whining, repetitive posts over and over until you come back right?

10. Write a post like this after being guilty of. Every. Single. One.