Upon finishing his lunch, Ryder put his plate up on the kitchen counter and put his scraps in the rubbish bin. Without any prompting from me.
This may seem a trivial thing to be proud of, but my little man is only 20 months old. Just when I begin to feel frustrated at doing the same thing every day, over and over, something like this happens and I think to myself, “maybe I’m not doing so bad.” While I may not be actively teaching and explaining my every move to Ryder, he is still learning by watching. Observing.
While on one hand I am pleased as punch that he is picking up on good habits without being “taught”, it also gives me some food for thought. If he is picking up on my subconscious good habits, what bad habits is he also observing? Is he paying as much attention to my drinking habits as he is to my tidying? Does he register my constant snacking on the same level as putting things away when finished? This concerns me in the sense that, I’ve never thought of this before. It makes sense though, if he notices my positive actions then of course he’ll notice my negative actions too, though he will not know which are good and which are bad.
Instead of dwelling on the concerns I have, I am going to use this experience and the thought process it triggered as a learning experience. I am going to try to be more mindful of my actions, after all I am trying to set a good example for Ryder. I need to remember that he sees my good and bad habits but cannot differentiate between the two. By being more mindful I can ensure that the actions he sees displayed at home are a positive influence to learn from and model, even if they aren’t being taught to him directly.
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